Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I started a relationship 26 years ago. I was a new bride, and I formed a relationship that I thought would last forever. I spent hours and hours cultivating a relationship that was fun, where I felt accepted and could just be myself.

But today I find myself having to make a hard decision. The other party in this relationship has changed – or maybe true colors are finally being displayed. The place where I once felt acceptance and safety now spews forth words I cannot listen to and makes decision that I cannot stand by and support.

I thought we would be together forever.

But today, it is with a heavy heart that I break up with you, Target.

Broken heart

We have many great memories together. All the super size Downy Unstoppables I bought just to get that $5 gift card in return. The work out clothes that are almost as good as Nike but a whole lot cheaper. Going to you for dog food, salsa, batteries and an 8 pack of Hanes boxer shorts – all in one shopping trip. Reliving all our memories together can truly bring a tear to a glass eye.

But there comes a time in some relationships where one party realizes the intrinsic values of the other are not in sync anymore. I thought we understood each other – I thought you wanted me to come to your store, shop and occasionally use the restroom with peace of mind.

Apparently I was wrong.

In your company’s recent statement you said, “Everyone deserves to feel like they belong.”

Well, guess what? I don’t feel that way anymore. I am a Bible-believing Christian, and as these social issues carpet bomb the country I go back to a verse that clears it all up for me. “For God is not a God of disorder, but of peace.” (1 Corinthians 14:33) Letting a male who claims he feels like a female today into my restroom creates disorder and chaos. Allowing women go into a men’s restroom with little boys in there does the same.

It is you, Target who is now discriminating against women and children who want to feel secure when they are in your store – whether they are Christians or not. So now I don’t feel like I belong in your store anymore – does that matter to you?

God does not create or condone chaos. But I know who does. “The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy.” (John 10:10) And right now we are letting satan have a field day in our nation. I know I’m only one person, but I will make my stand.

So good-bye, Target. Thanks for all the memories. But from now on, I will choose to spend my time and my money fostering relationships that don’t condone the ammo of the evil one.

Now if Hobby Lobby would just start carrying dog food…




Go Build a Deck

My parents are about to complete a 10-year dream. Actually, in all honesty my dad has had this dream for the last 10 years. He’s always wanted to add a screened-in deck to the back of their house, complete with a rather large flat screen TV from which he can watch countless hours of PGA golf and Auburn football.


The deck has been 10 years in the making. Ten years of planning, thinking, doing other things, thinking about it again, getting serious about it, backing off from it. Ten years of wishing they had one, glad they hadn’t spent the money on it. Ten years of not now, maybe later.

So for whatever reason (actually I know the reason – my mother finally said OK. He wore her down after 10 years of persistent hint dropping) the deck is finally being built. A little late for this year’s Masters, but in plenty of time to enjoy spring and summer evenings without having to fight off the annoying official Alabama state bird – the mosquito – and then on to what will hopefully be a more enjoyable fall of football.

And that got me thinking – in 10 years what will I wish I had done today? What do you wish you had done more of 10 years ago? Read more books to your grandchildren? Served a little more at church? Had a weekly date night with your spouse?

It could be something not so thought provoking – heaven knows I wish I had been working out regularly for the last 10 years. And when I say “working out,” let’s be clear. I actually detest working out because my body tends to revolt in a series of swellings, aches in pains – mostly in areas I didn’t even know could hurt – when I get a consistent routine in place. (And when I say consistent, that really adds up to about two solid weeks of mediocre effort, like walking my dog.) I wish I had been working out for the last 10 years so that my clothes would fit better and certain areas wouldn’t jiggle like jell-o, but I have consciously made the repeated decision to do something else with my time (like eating M&M’s while binge watching some dumb show on Netflix).

I’ve come to realize that little choices I make every day lead to a week of choices, then a month, and on to a year… and then all of a sudden I’ve made 10 years of choices that hopefully add up to a purposeful life as the decades add up.

Proverbs 13:4 says, “The sluggard craves and gets nothing, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.” I personally like the Message version: “Indolence wants it all and gets nothing; the energetic have something to show for their lives.” I’m not always energetic, but I try. And I definitely want to have something to show for my life when Jesus and I play my highlight reel together.

So what should you be doing now – today – to keep you from saying what my daddy did about his deck: “I wish I had built this 10 years ago!” Make that first decision today that will build a decade full of intentional choices and purposeful living.